phone flakiness = not hot

So Tuesday night guy followed up on the first date with an email asking for a second date.  As we all know, an email is NOT a phone call, he was perfectly able to pick up the phone before to ask me out.  However, his track record sucks.  He flaked on calling me on Monday, like he said he would, to set up the Tuesday night date.  Tuesday morning he sent the apologetic "I guess I should have called you to set up plans yesterday, but are we still on tonight" email.  At the urging of office mate, I went anyway, and had a relatively good time.  Agreed to the follow up date set via email on Friday, with the last email saying "I'll give you a call later just to say hi."  Well, I'm sure it's a *shock* that he didn't call Friday "just to say hi" (I mean, seriously, why bother?  It's a second date, dude, we're not at the stage where I want to just say hi to you for no reason).  But it really pisses me off that I haven't heard from him by 5 pm on Saturday to firm up plans for tonight.  So, I think there needs to be a formal update to the 2010 Rules:



12.  Phone flake on me once, shame on you; phone flake on me twice, see you later.  Don't say it if you're not going to do it.  Actions, not words.  Even if you "sort of" make plans with me over email, if you flake on when you say you will call me, you're just not into me enough to remember what you said you'd do.  Especially AFTER you've met me, clearly realized how awesome I am (or, alternatively, whether we have the potential of awesome between us).  Therefore, you get one pass on the "I'll call you later," but 2 flakes = a pattern of flakiness = either (a) you're a flake (and who needs you) and/or (b) you're just not that into me. 

13.  I turn into a pumpkin by 5:30 pm.  My workday generally ends at 5:30.  Therefore, that's my cut off - weekends or weekdays.  If I don't have a specific plan beyond "let's do something, I'll call you" by 5:30 pm, I'm sorry, but I'm out.  This is for everyone's best interest - if I'm sitting around waiting until 8 pm before you tell me where to meet you, then you are not into me enough to make sure that I'm going to be on board for whatever you have planned, and - let's face it - I'm going to be cranky from having to sit around and wait for you.  Also, (see Rule No. 2), I am not SO available that I can be called upon at the last minute to be dressed and ready to go out (even if we've "sort of" set up something for that night).  If you're not going to be that into me, and show me that you care enough to make sure at least a couple hours before the date that I know where I'm going and what I'm doing, you're just going to miss out - at least for that night.  It's not a deal breaker, but you sure as hell better get with the program next time.