the set-up

when every woman in NYC has 6 different circles of female friends (growing up, college, grad school, friends from the gym, old work colleagues, new work colleagues, and more)getting all of them together, especially when a majority of them are married / living together / seriously dating and one of them is me, generally turns into the "who can I fix you up with" show. In this latest installment, I end up hooked up with a guy we'll call Mr. Set-up #1 (b/c there will doubtless be more stories of set-ups on here).

Mr. Set-up #1 is amusing over email. He's cute when I facebook & google stalk him. We exchange hilarious texts and set up a phone date (*** more on the importance of the phone date, later). Then a real date. In the pre-Rules dating world, anything goes. It's Tues night, we meet in a bar and have 2 or 3 giant beers.  I'm tanked, so let's get dinner.  And more drinks.  And after dinner drinks.  And make out in a bar.  Thankfully, he had the good sense to throw me in a cab at 1 am.  I don't remember much past 11:30.

Amazingly, despite all indications to the contrary, he asks for date #2.  Which we agree will be less alcohol-fueled than date #1.  Date #2 is awesome.  Then we get really drunk.  And then we're in a cab, we're at his place, it's 4 am, you get the drift.  Breakfast the next day was nice.  Breakfast was also the last time I saw him. 



I didn't call him, he called me 2 days later but didn't leave a message.  But he called, right?  So that's good, right?  Umm, not good enough.  If he's not leaving a message, he's just not that into you.  If they're into you, they make sure they get in touch with you - they don't rely on the "she'll see the missed call and call me back" theory.  It was a pity call, due to the mutual friend nature of "the set-up."  I texted him asking him for drinks the following weekend (breaking rule # 1), he said he'd call Sunday.  He did not.
Conclusion:  He's just not that into me.

I could spend the next 3 weeks obsessively texting him and seeing when he was "free to grab drinks - had so much fun last time!" or I could just accept the fact that it was 2 fun dates, and that's all.  Next, please.